Living in alignment—where your actions, values, and true self are in harmony—leads to a life of purpose, fulfilment, and peace. Yet, many people struggle to reach this state. It’s not because they don’t want it; it’s because living in alignment requires courage, clarity, and often a willingness to make profound changes.

Here are the five main reasons why most people are not living in alignment, along with insights into how to overcome these barriers:

1. Change Is Hard

Living in alignment often requires releasing the old—old stories, limiting beliefs, outdated identities, toxic relationships, and material clutter. This process can feel uncomfortable and even threatening. Many mistake the inevitable roadblocks that come with change as “signs” that they shouldn’t pursue alignment when in fact these obstacles are the very path to growth.

The Reality: Obstacles Are Part of the Path

Change requires stepping out of your comfort zone. Instead of viewing challenges as reasons to stop, see them as opportunities to grow. The discomfort of shedding the old is a necessary step to make space for the new. Embrace the mantra: “The obstacle is the way.”

2. Your True Self Isn’t Realised

Many people have never had the chance—or the guidance—to uncover their true self. Layers of societal conditioning, family expectations, and external pressures bury their authentic qualities. They live as versions of themselves shaped by others’ expectations, never discovering their unique gifts and inherent worth.

The Reality: Your True Self Already Exists

Your true self is not something you create; it’s something you uncover. Practices like journaling, mindfulness, and self-inquiry can help you reconnect with your authentic self. Living in alignment starts with asking: “Who am I beneath the roles I play?”

3. Your Purpose Isn’t Strong or Clear Enough

Without a clear sense of purpose, it’s easy to drift through life on autopilot, living by default rather than by design. Purpose acts as a compass, guiding your decisions and actions. When purpose isn’t defined, misalignment becomes the norm.

The Reality: Purpose Evolves as You Do

Your purpose doesn’t have to be grand or fully formed right away. Start by exploring what excites you, what you value, and where you can make an impact. Purpose is revealed through action and reflection, not by waiting for a lightning bolt of clarity.

4. You Have No Guide

Navigating the path to alignment can feel overwhelming without someone to guide you. A mentor, coach, or trusted advisor acts as a “tour guide,” helping you navigate challenges, offering perspective, and keeping you accountable. Without this, many give up at the first sign of resistance.

The Reality: Everyone Needs Support

You don’t have to do it alone. Seek out someone who has walked the path you’re on, whether it’s a coach, a mentor, or a wise friend. Guidance accelerates growth and makes the journey to alignment more manageable.

5. You Lack a Support Network

Change can feel isolating, especially if your current social circle is not aligned with your growth. Many people fear becoming the “black sheep” or being ostracised by their tribe, even if that tribe no longer supports their well-being. This fear keeps them stuck in toxic dynamics and prevents them from pursuing alignment.

The Reality: You Need a Like-Minded Community

Surround yourself with people who share your values and vision. Whether it’s joining a group, attending events, or finding an online community, connecting with others on the same journey creates a sense of belonging and support. Remember, the right tribe will encourage your growth, not fear it.

Living in Alignment Is a Courageous Choice

Living in alignment isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. It requires letting go of the old, embracing discomfort, and committing to the path of your true self. The barriers that hold most people back—fear of change, lack of clarity, absence of guidance, and isolation—can all be overcome with intention and action.

The question to ask yourself is this: Am I willing to release what no longer serves me to step into the life that truly aligns with my soul?

When you embrace the journey to alignment, you’ll find that the life you create is not only purposeful but also deeply fulfilling. The path isn’t always smooth, but it’s yours—and that makes it the most rewarding journey of all.